5 Posibleng Dahilan Kung Bakit Wala Ka Pang Lovelife

Marahil binabasa mo ito ngayon dahil wala kang lovelife. Tama? Gusto mong malaman kung bakit, ano, sino at saan ka nagkulang. Dahil sa kabila ng araw-araw mong paglalagay ng kolorete sa iyong mukha, araw-araw mong pag-aayos na halos kita na lahat ng laman mo. At araw-araw na paiba-iba ang fashion sense kahit nagja-jacket na tirik ang araw. Hindi mo pa rin mahanap-hanap ‘yung taong tinatawag nilang Mr. Right?

Ngayon ang tanong, baka naman nakita mo na siya, choosy ka lang. Posible ‘yun ‘di ba?Lol. 🙂

Para naman sa mga kalalakihan bumabasa nito, marahil single ka rin. Naghahanap ng kasagutan kung bakit ‘yung mga kaibigan mo halos isang dosena na ang naging syota, ikaw, wala pa kahit isa. May hitsura ka naman, pero baka ikaw lang din ang nakakaalam. Lol. 🙂 (Saklap brad!)

Kaya naman naisip ng may-akda na hanapin ang 5 posibleng rason kong ano-ano ang dahilan ng pagiging single ng mga pinoy.

Paalala sa mga kabataang may edad 15 pababa, aral muna bago landi. ‘Wag magmadali. Dapat dahan-dahan lang. Ingat, sabi nga ni John Lloyd sa kanyang T.V. commercial. Kasi baka hindi ka pa handa  sa pagpasok sa papasukin mong relasyon at pagsisihan mo sa bandang huli.

* Career Oriented

– May mga tao talagang halos tumira na sa company office sa sobrang binibusy nila and sarli. Work > Home > Work > Kaunting Gala >Repeat. Kanya-kanyang rason, kanya-kanyang opinyon kung bakit ganitong lifestyle ang napili nila. Pero sa pagkakaalam namin, karamihan sa mga carrier-oriented ngayon ay may mataas nang pangarap sa buhay, marami pang ma-achieve bago mag 25 or 30, at marami pang travel destination ang gustong puntahan. Kung gusto n’yo lang naman ng mga ideya kung saan pumunta ngayon Ber months or next summer, bisitihan n’yo lang kami dito at tiyak marami kayang pagpipilian – Travel List.

Balik tayo sa usapan. Hindi rin naman ibig sabihin na lahat ng career-oriented, wala pang lovelife, ‘yung iba, meron, pero malay mo merong maghihiwalay pa lang kasi nga career-oriented. Lol. 🙂

* Hindi pa naka move-on or nasaktan ka nang sobrang-sobra

– Nagmahal, Nasaktan, Lumamon. Maraming ganyan, brad. Kahit wala sa isang relasyon, nasaktan. Nag-assume kasi. Kahit hindi nasaktan, lumamon, at kahit hindi nagmahal, lumamon pa rin. Sarap nga din naman lumamon lalo na malamig ang panahon. Lol.   Pero usapang seryoso, hindi natin sila masisisi kung bakit single pa rin sila dahil sa trauma ng kanilang past relationship. Kailangan lang siguro nila ng kaunti pang time, space at lugar kung saan mabilis sila makaka-recover gaya ng nai-post sa isang website: 10 Reasons Why You Should Visit Batanes While You Are Still Single.  Pero malay natin baka bukas, makalawa, may makabangga ka sa kalsada. Nahulog ang libro, sabay pupulutin, slow motion effect, insert music ni Gary V: Kung wala ka nang maintindihan, Kung wala ka nang makapitan, Kapit ka sa akin, Kapit ka sa akin, Hindi kita bibitawan.  ‘Yun forever na. hahaha.:)

* Choosy ka masyado

– #Fact101: Ang mga taong masyadong choosy lalo na ‘yung hindi naman ganun kagandahan at kagwapuhan ay e ‘di wow! Yung totoo, walang naman talagang problema sa pagiging choosy, kaso lang ang nangyayari kasi dito, kung sino pa ‘yung hindi naman ma-itsura, sila pa ang mas bully, mas pili sa mga taong kakaibiganin at mga syota nila.

* Walang nagkakagusto sa iyo. Period.

– Sinasabi mo busy ka. Sa school, sa work, sa bahay, sa business, hindi ka pa puwede magkasyota kasi strict ang parents mo, hindi ka pa puwede dahil marami ka pang pangarap sa buhay o kung ano man yan. Pero baka naman wala talagang may gusto sa iyo kaya single ka ngayon. Ayaw mo lang sabihin pero ‘yung totoo gustong-gusto mo nang magkaroon ng relationship goals.

* Hindi mo pinasa ‘yung chainmail

– Damhin ang bagsik ng sumpa dulot ng chainmail. ‘Yung hindi mo pinapansin na send this 10 or 15 or else mangyayari sa iyo to or you’ll regret things after kapag hindi mo naipasa ‘yung mensahe. Kaya naman sa taong nakakatanggap pa ng mga chainmail ngayon, magpaload na ng unli text, ‘wag ipagwalang-bahala at send hanggang may oras pa.

Sige ka, gusto mo bang maging single forever?  ^_^  

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The Comparison Game

Written by Kendra

A friend sent me a link the other day to a book that a college classmate is having published this spring. My friend stumbled upon this nugget of information in a bit of classmate stalking.

“So and so is a published writer now”, my friend wrote to me with a mixture of jealousy and derision.

Inside a part of me sang.

I can’t deny that sometimes when I take a step backwards and look at the expanse of my life which is long on memories but short on stuff, I’m left wondering if I’ve done the right thing. When I end up at yet another perfectly decorated housewarming, or at a party of someone in a part of town that I couldn’t afford to rent a toilet never mind own an apartment, it’s hard to remember that I’ve climbed to the top of a volcano, gone body surfing in Biarritz, rang in the New Year in Dublin.

It’s much easier to remember that I’m thirty (yep my birthday was last week), unemployed, single, living at home, with just enough possessions to fill the back of my dad’s SUV.

I don’t even own a car.

I wonder if I shouldn’t have used my twenties to ramble, to ping pong, and flit and instead used it to plod the path that society said I should have taken. The path that at 24 I felt was soul crushing, but now staring down at thirty and longing for security, stability and companionship seems comforting in its own way. The path, in other words, that a lot of my friends and acquaintances have taken, to when I take a step back and assess objectively, to mixed results.

It’s hard not to get caught up in the comparison game; no matter how relatively successful society deems you. And the vague sense of unease and jealousy espoused by my friend, who by many measure’s of society is successful, in the shadow of our classmates accomplishments made me feel better about myself.

Not because, as Calvin and Hobbes so succinctly put it that nothing helps a bad mood so much than spreading it around, but because his jealousy helped remind me that in the comparison game nobody wins.

At a party a few weeks ago I was talking to a guy who expressed jealousy at how much I’d traveled. I was totally jealous that he had a job. The funny thing is, finances aside we were in much the same situation: afloat. His Investment Banking job was poised to end, making business school his only possible option, and his long-term relationship which had been headed towards marriage derailed leaving him totally single.

I guess the truth is there is no such thing as the safe path, the guaranteed path.  There is merely our path, and we can walk it with strength or with trepidation and fear but we will have to walk it nonetheless.

We may as well have a good time while we’re doing it.

– See more at: http://www.stratejoy.com/2010/01/the-comparison-game/#sthash.IHAZ9KgR.dpuf

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