What Kind of a Man a Woman Want

by: Ptra. Faythe Santiago

One night while seeking God, He spoke to me and said, “Be Sarah.” I opened my Bible and found my way to 1 Peter 3:5 which says, “For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, [6] like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.”

Sarah was mentioned here as someone women must imitate. We ought to submit and this is how women in the Bible make themselves beautiful. Sarah was totally submissive to ABRAHAM.

As of this writing, I’ve pastored hundreds of young people. I lead not only young women but young men in the church. I also lead youth pastors from different churches in the Philippines. But God is telling me that someday, He will give me an ABRAHAM to lead me and my job is simple: to SUBMIT.

Yes, an Abraham. If women ought to be submissive like Sarah, then they must have an ABRAHAM to lead them, a man worth following!  I love what the verse says about Sarah, “like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord.”

I’ll share to you one of the many powerful traits of Abraham that caused Sarah to obey him:

1. Man of Vision

Women, do not ever marry a man without vision. The worst disaster of your life is living a life without vision! Without vision men perish dragging their wives along (Pro 29:18).

Men must have dreams, direction, purpose and mission. They have a vision and they pursue that vision! He knows where he is going and he pursues that direction! And take note, this is not his own vision but the vision of God. He hit God’s vision right at the very center!

Many times God would speak to Abraham. Go to this place. Do this. You will become like this. One example is that God had to show Abraham the sky to give him a picture of what he and Sarah will be like in the future! A huge vision:

“He took him outside and said, “Look up at the sky and count the stars—if indeed you can count them.” Then he said to him, “So shall your offspring be.” Abram believed the Lord, and he credited it to him as righteousness.” – Genesis 15:5-6

God gave Abraham a vision that his descendants will be as numerous as the stars in the sky! He lived with a vision and so he knows where to go and he knows what he will become: a father of many nations.

2. Man of Faith

Hebrews 11:6 says, “And without faith it is impossible to please God.” 

Men have BIG faith not big muscles. Their asset is not their face but their faith. Real men love adventures with God! They love risking it with God by believing every word and every promise even when it seems impossible! They move mountains, soar high, do impossible things, accomplish great things and witness miracles all because of their faith in God!

Abraham believed God when He promised him that He will become a father of many nations. Sarah just laughed it off, how can we be like that if I can’t even bore a son? And one day, Sarah found herself pregnant. All because of her husband’s faith!

“Against all hope, Abraham in hope believed and so became the father of many nations, just as it had been said to him, “So shall your offspring be.”” – Romans 4:18 

3. Man of Obedience 

For all the Sarahs out there, never marry a man who is disobedient to God.  It is a gift to have a husband who hears and obeys God!

“Some time later God tested Abraham. He said to him, “Abraham!” “Here I am,” he replied. Then God said, “Take your son, your only son, whom you love—Isaac—and go to the region of Moriah. Sacrifice him there as a burnt offering on a mountain I will show you.” Early the next morning Abraham got up and loaded his donkey. He took with him two of his servants and his son Isaac. When he had cut enough wood for the burnt offering, he set out for the place God had told him about.” – Genesis 22:1-3

After years and years of waiting for the promised son, Isaac was born. The child brought joy to their life! Then one day, God spoke to Abraham to sacrifice his only SON for Him.

This is OBEDIENCE: when early next morning he got up and prepared everything for his sacrifice to God, His son, Isaac! Even when it hurts.  No ifs, no buts, no questions asked. Abraham obeyed.

4. MAN WHO LOVES GOD WITH HIS ALL 

Abraham obeyed because he loved God more than anything in this world!

A dream husband is someone WHO LOVES GOD WITH HIS ALL. And I hope you fully understand what I mean when I say ALL.

 

Someone who is secured in God’s love and needs nothing but Him. They fulfill this in their life:

Matthew 22:37  “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.” 

John Wesley said, “Give me 100 men who love God and hate nothing but sin and I will shake the world for Christ”.

And this will make our world a better world: Raise up FATHERS WHO LOVES GOD! Blessed are the wives and children of those men who love God.

We need to see men go crazy in love for Jesus, blazing in their passion for Him and extreme to obey his commands!

And these men will in turn, be passionate pursuers, great providers, loving fathers and history makers all because they loved God first and with their all!

GOD WANTS TO SEE ABRAHAM IN YOU and Sarahs out there will be so blessed to have you. She will journey with you as you journey with God in raising up a generation who loves God and impacts our world!

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Dear Future Husband

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I’ve read this post at exactly 1:36 am, August 27, 2016…I can’t sleep for whatever reasons that I can’t tell (it’s a secret, hehe)..So I decided to check my FB and this is the first post that I saw…That’s why I am writing this blog. I think this one is beautifully written. I can’t help myself from reading it over and over. I even reposted it in my Instagram account. And then I ran into some of my saved files because I happen to read a blog that seems to answer this post..Here it goes…

Dear Mr. Right,

As a daydreamer with a vivid and colorful imagination, it was hard for me to put my daydreams of my fairy tale man to the side. But I am. It’s hard.

It’s hard to truly let go, and let God work. This comes from someone who is a recovering control freak…especially when it comes to relationships. I wanted to control every aspect: the meeting, the pursuit, the conversation, and the timing. I was always told that my Mr. Right is somewhere out there. After all, there are plenty of fish in the sea. But I didn’t want just a fish… I wanted my one true love and I wanted him NOW.

I was impatient. I searched for love and acceptance in all the wrong places. I sought it out in people that continually failed me. I would often see a guy in Starbucks and think, “could he be the one?”…I mean he did have really nice hair. I did not understand why I was the girl that never had the awesome boyfriend. To be honest Mr. Right, I would pray for you every night. I remember tears running down my face because I so badly wanted to find you. I truthfully wanted that fairytale moment with you, when our eyes met from across the room and we immediately fell in love. I wanted the fireworks and the distant sound of triumphant music and even the cute little floating hearts above our heads, because I thought, “I had found the one made just for me.”

But, our Father is so faithful. He is the one for which my soul was made. I was made to love Him! I was made to continually fall more and more in love with Him everyday. So Mr. Right, in response to your letter I am waiting. I am praying for patience. I am submitting my life to God. I am growing and learning how GOOD of a Father we serve.

And you are right. We need time . I need time to be patient and completely surrender my heart to God, I need to lay it all at his feet. I need to just be with him everyday. And to respond to your question “Am I okay with never getting married?”, I will be honest and say that if you asked me that a year ago I would have said a very clear and stern, “NO!” But that has completely changed. I feel led to say this, to tell you that you do not complete me, and I CAN live without you. It is something that I have struggled with, but our God is faithful. He is the one that holds me in His hand, and loves me unconditionally. Can you love me in that way? I’m not sure I can do that just yet.

So in the waiting Mr. Right, I’m praying for you and for God to strengthen our hearts in a way only he can (Psalm 27:14). To give us patience, and understanding when everything gets confusing and complicated.

Thinking of you and praying with you.

– Mrs. Right in training

Ilusyunada mode: “Feeling ko para sa akin yung post niya!..Charot!..How I wish”

I hope that my Mr. Right is thinking the same as the man who write this post…God bless you man and may you really find your Future Mrs. Right…aw..Future Wife pala!

In HIS Time

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Ecclesiastes 13

1 There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under the heavens:

2 a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot,

3 a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build,

4 a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance,

5 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,

6 a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away,

7 a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak,

8 a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.

11 He has made everything beautiful in its time…

Re – reading this verse, remind me again to be faithful and to wait patiently for the Lord’s perfect timing for me.. For every aspect of my life…especially that aspect of my life..yeah, LOVE LIFE, that is!

Many times I become frustrated and depress about that especially when people around me started questioning me “kailan ka ba mag – aasawa? (when are you getting married)..wala pa ba? (is there still no one)..hay!

But I’m still praying for that perfect man for me..I believe he’s perfect for me because he was hand-picked by God Himself..was?..because I know when God made him, He was thinking about me..Isn’t that sweet…(insert smiling face)